“If I could give you one thought, it would be to lift someone up. Lift a stranger up--lift her up. I would ask you, mother and father, brother and sister, lovers, mother and daughter, father and son, lift someone. The very idea of lifting someone up will lift you, as well.” ― Maya Angelou
It's important to hang with people who lift you up, who make you reach for the stars, and who say, "Yes, you can!" even when you think it's impossible. These are the kind of folks you feel good around and the energy is always at its highest vibration when you are together. But what do you do when you have to be around people who make you feel small? Individuals who can't seem to get themselves out of their own half empty glass, so they try to drag you in with them?
We all have people in our lives who we are forced to come in contact with. For some of us it's a client, a co-worker, a family member and even a long time friend. We can't erase them from our lives, so what do we do? Do we battle it out in a good versus evil kind of way? Do we dodge the negative blows and shield ourselves with the positive? Or do we come clean with an honest approach? I'm sure these tactics work, but for me, not so much. I'm usually left completely exhausted from a dead end "honest" conversation and my positive shield inevitably breaks. It's a battle I can't win.
And that is what I've finally realized......How this person makes me feel is not actually about winning or losing. It's not about being in the middle of a battle field trying desperately to protect myself. It actually has nothing to do with me at all. Maybe their need to bring me down is actually a cry for help, a need for companionship, a desire to be seen, a want for connection, a desperate attempt to feel lifted by lowering others.
So when you come in contact with your glass is half full kind of person, set your own feelings aside because it may not be about you at all. Raise their glass and raise it high because it may just be what they need. Fill their half empty glass up to the rim and see what happens. In turn, you will lift yourself up, get out of the battle zone and find yourself having more time to throw your noodles. Cheers!
We all have people in our lives who we are forced to come in contact with. For some of us it's a client, a co-worker, a family member and even a long time friend. We can't erase them from our lives, so what do we do? Do we battle it out in a good versus evil kind of way? Do we dodge the negative blows and shield ourselves with the positive? Or do we come clean with an honest approach? I'm sure these tactics work, but for me, not so much. I'm usually left completely exhausted from a dead end "honest" conversation and my positive shield inevitably breaks. It's a battle I can't win.
And that is what I've finally realized......How this person makes me feel is not actually about winning or losing. It's not about being in the middle of a battle field trying desperately to protect myself. It actually has nothing to do with me at all. Maybe their need to bring me down is actually a cry for help, a need for companionship, a desire to be seen, a want for connection, a desperate attempt to feel lifted by lowering others.
So when you come in contact with your glass is half full kind of person, set your own feelings aside because it may not be about you at all. Raise their glass and raise it high because it may just be what they need. Fill their half empty glass up to the rim and see what happens. In turn, you will lift yourself up, get out of the battle zone and find yourself having more time to throw your noodles. Cheers!
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