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The Wednesday Simmer - Flip The Coin

10/24/2012

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"The opposite of anger is not calmness, its empathy."  - Mehmet Oz 

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When someone takes away your power, it can be difficult to "get back on the horse," as they say.  We've all experienced this at one point or another.  Maybe it's a co-worker who reminds you every day of your place on the totem pole, the family member that doesn't hear or see you, the client who's never happy, or the friend who belittles your choices.  We all have been there and done that.  Right?  And when they take that power of yours, it can feel debilitating.  

I remember going into an audition once and completely having my power smashed to pieces.  It was a simple act that made a crushing impact.  I had rehearsed a song for this audition.  I was ready.  I was pumped.  I walked into that room after hours of waiting, and as I started singing my song, the casting director began texting on her cell phone. Looking back, I wish I had stood up for myself and stopped singing but instead, I let my power be taken.  I became so angry and jaded over the whole audition process, that I let myself wallow in it.  I made it all about ME.  What that casting director did to ME.  How she made ME feel.  In the end, I let that casting director get the best of ME.   

When we let people take our power, instead of automatically going to the ME place, why not flip the coin.  
Sure, that casting director was rude, but I also have no idea why? Maybe she had an emergency, broke up with her boyfriend or maybe she just hates her job.  The truth is, our power is only taken away, if we let it.  We have no control over other people's behaviors and actions but we have control over how they make us feel.  If someone is always trying to take that power away from you, maybe it's because there is someone who is always taking theirs.  

So when you throw your noodles this week, try and flip the coin if you find yourself in a power stealing scenario.  Hold on to your power and feel the power of empathy instead.  
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Kimberly Amici link
10/24/2012 08:27:46 am

Love this post. I have definitely let people take away my power in the past. It usually has to do with my creative ideas, some people don't think they are worth the effort and have discouraged me. I have gotten much better at "getting back on the horse" as I get older.

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