"Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance." - Steven Pressfield
When I first became a mom, Resistance came in the form of not having enough time. I was unable to look beyond the exhaustion and multi-tasking I had to do in order to get thru the day. There wasn't any way that I could possibly DO anything or BE anything more than what I already was. But, as I became accustomed to motherhood, I realized that although motherhood was fulfilling and amazing, I also sometimes felt like a part of me was slowly fading. I had a small spark waiting to be ignited, but I didn't know how. As I became more aware of my feelings, my Resistance got stronger too. This time in the form of guilt, self doubt, fear and procrastination.
It wasn't until recently, after reading The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield, that I realized how much Resistance has always been a part of my life, even before motherhood. In his book, Pressfield masterfully writes, "Resistance seems to come from outside ourselves. We locate it in spouses, jobs, bosses, kids. Resistance is not a peripheral opponent. Resistance arises from within. It is self-generated and self-perpetuated. Resistance is the enemy within."
After giving birth to my second child, my Resistance broke and my noodles started flying. What had changed? Maybe it was a deeper awareness, a little more confidence or the fact that I knew I was a better mother when I didn't let myself fade. That seemed to make sense. But now I realize that giving birth was the first thing I had ever done that made me feel powerful. Maybe that's all I needed. One moment. One single moment without the pull of Resistance to ignite that spark. As Pressfield eloquently puts it, "Defeating Resistance is like giving birth. It seems absolutely impossible until you remember that women have been pulling it off successfully, with support and without, for fifty million years."
Your moment is NOW. Feel the power, be aware of your Resistance and throw your noodles anyway. It's the first step to living the "unlived life" within you.
For more info on Steven Pressfield and his other amazing books, go HERE.
After giving birth to my second child, my Resistance broke and my noodles started flying. What had changed? Maybe it was a deeper awareness, a little more confidence or the fact that I knew I was a better mother when I didn't let myself fade. That seemed to make sense. But now I realize that giving birth was the first thing I had ever done that made me feel powerful. Maybe that's all I needed. One moment. One single moment without the pull of Resistance to ignite that spark. As Pressfield eloquently puts it, "Defeating Resistance is like giving birth. It seems absolutely impossible until you remember that women have been pulling it off successfully, with support and without, for fifty million years."
Your moment is NOW. Feel the power, be aware of your Resistance and throw your noodles anyway. It's the first step to living the "unlived life" within you.
For more info on Steven Pressfield and his other amazing books, go HERE.